Female, anti feminist, egalitarian.
I'm against sexism of all kinds but there are plenty of blogs whose sole focus is on women but very few even recognise that sexism does not equal Man against Woman.
This blog focuses on Misandry: The hatred, discimination or distrust of men and boys. Pointing out the representation of men in the media, deliberate misinformation/misrepresentation, the demonisation of men in our society and the imbalance this causes.
Rather than think of ourselves as in competition we should cater to everyone as needed.
If you think I'm being unfair to other women just know that I consider all sides of an argument, normally I prefer to be the fence. But for the purposes of this blog I have taken a side so apologies if this offends you.
I answer all asks privately unless otherwise requested or anonymous.

 

If you feel like having a laugh, read the positive reviews for Depression Quest, they’re excellent XD

wakeuplena:

it-goes-both-ways:

What is #GamerGate? HUFFPOST Live with Erik Kain (Forbes), Fredrick Brennan (8chan) and Brianna Wu - ZenithTheOne

Huffington Post Live asks “What is #GamerGate?” and, predictably, completely fails to answer.

Apparently the thousands of men, women and everything in between from all over the world are somehow entirely dedicated to Wu’s feelings and how bloody important they are to us. What little the host dedicates to Hotwheels and Erik is akin to “why do you hate women so much?” which neither falls for as they knew it was coming. While Hotwheels is compared to the grand wizard of the KKK and his site a haven for paedophiles, his fantastic retort is treated as an unprovoked attack. Fortunately they were so clumsy in their desperation to play victim throughout that they displayed the exact behaviour they were protesting and were easily smacked down in the handful of sentences not dedicated to Wu’s persecution complex.

"I was scared for my life so I took a whole 24 hour break from twitter" -Brianna Wu, 2014

I’m surprised she didn’t get PTSD.

Anonymous asked
you are a dumb fucking bitch. stay in the kitchen or kill yourself, because you're no benefit to the earth.

That’s not a good idea, every time I go near a kitchen, this happens.

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jonniez:

pleasefiremoffat:

it-goes-both-ways:

pleasefiremoffat:

beelzibubbles:

buckybarneswho:

Martha Jones is a black female doctor who Shakespare wrote sonnets about she saved the world using a spell from Harry Potter and then she traveled the world and saved it from the…

I’d also like to point out something: I’ve watched all of Doctor Who until this season, and I can honestly not remember one single time when it was explicitly stated that the two were lesbians. No one ever seems to realize that
they could be bisexual. And I also second the point that they could be lesbians but fall in love with a man, as, while rare, I have heard a case or two of it happening to gay men (under very specific and not easily reproduced circumstances, but still possible).

I’ve not watched this series yet either, tumblr’s kind of put me off, there’s still the first eight doctors to rewatch.

Vastra seems like a very sexual character in some ways like Irene, and 51st century people like Jack and River are said to be omnisexual. What I find amusing is that the same people who claim to want people not to judge on the person’s body and that men not finding other men attractive is bigotry, get so pissed off when any female character falls for a man (who has the traits people find attractive in a partner in the extreme) and will find ways to claim that it’s oppressive. They seem to think that for a woman just loving a man takes something away from her.

pleasefiremoffat:

it-goes-both-ways:

pleasefiremoffat:

beelzibubbles:

buckybarneswho:

Martha Jones is a black female doctor who Shakespare wrote sonnets about she saved the world using a spell from Harry Potter and then she traveled the world and saved it from the master and she didn’t need something magical about her to save the world
So please explain to me why you hate martha

Because they’re just looking for excuses to call Moffat a misogynist despite everything being all about how amazing and wonderful women are. If he writes every female character as “the most important X in the universe” that’s misogyny. Somehow. If he doesn’t bow down and declare that every single female is literally god, that’s misogyny. If he does, that’s misogyny. Everything is misogyny.

Then they wonder why the word no longer means anything to so many people.

Martha Jones was not written by Moffat????

So the basic premise of your argument is bullshit.

I’m not even going to bother countering the rest of the bullshit in it.

I know that. My point was that they say they just want some normal female character and call Moffat’s characters bitches, sluts and whores then assert that that was his intention, projecting their own bigotry onto him in order to demonise him and try and turn his fans on him. No matter what he does, you lot are there jumping to bizarre conclusions, refusing to venture beyond your echo chambers unless it’s to nitpick at the only point you can actually refute which wasn’t even what was meant. They throw hate at him because they want such a character but they don’t like it when they get it. Only tumblr feminists and SJWs can look at a programme where women are depicted as literally THE most important beings in the entire universe, past, present and future, in all dimensions and say “he must hate women”. Let me guess, it’s also about rape somehow.

You no more know the contents of his mind than I do so you have no right to outright declare what he thinks. You have no way of knowing that. You can guess, you can hypothesise, for instance I believe that he would strongly disagree with my views, but you can’t tell him or anyone else what he actually thinks and believes. Not with any degree of accuracy at least.

I also find it amusing that some of the most oversensitive people on the planet who scream misogyny at bloody everything and take anon comments as literal threats of death and rape, dedicate hate blogs to men they don’t like. Hypocrites.

You can look at what he’s said to see what he thinks.

His thoughts on his wife being pregnant: “Your wife turns into a boat, and shortly after that, you never sleep again and you clean shit off someone. It doesn’t seem like a very appealing prospect. Obviously, the moment I saw my child, that was different, but up until that point, I was thinking, ‘how long before she gets back to normal size? Will this damage anything?’” and “If you take most men aside when their wives are pregnant, most men are pretty frightened and worried and faintly disgusted by the whole experience.”

His comments on criticism: “River Song? Amy Pond? Hardly weak women. It’s the exact opposite. You could accuse me of having a fetish for powerful, sexy women who like cheating people. That would be fair.”

His thoughts on women: “There’s this issue you’re not allowed to discuss: that women are needy. Men can go for longer, more happily, without women. That’s the truth. We don’t, as little boys, play at being married - we try to avoid it for as long as possible. Meanwhile women are out there hunting for husbands.”

His thoughts on the unfortunate case you find yourself in by being a white male in modern society: “Well, the world is vastly counted in favour of men at every level - except if you live in a civilised country and you’re sort of educated and middle-class, because then you’re almost certainly junior in your relationship and in a state of permanent, crippled apology. Your preferences are routinely mocked. There’s a huge, unfortunate lack of respect for anything male.”

Yeah, I don’t want to know what goes on in his mind, if this is the stuff he puts out there.

And making his characters the most important characters in the series is a comment on his massive ego, and how he thinks he is better than all the previous writers (like how he just throws Clara into every inch of Doctor Who history that he possibly can, because that makes her the most important character in the series, aside from, maybe, the Doctor).

And what about on his shows? The lesbians, Irene Adler and Jenny, fall in love with the main male star and are forcibly kissed by the main male star, despite being married, respectively.

River Song’s entire story is Doctor-centric. Why did she become an archaeologist? To learn about the Doctor! What did she do upon meeting the Doctor? Try to kill him, only to go and give him her entire regeneration cycle just to save him! And she fell in love with him somewhere in there, I guess.

Aside from obvious deliberate humour, which his wife is perfectly fine with, and blown out of proportion, I still can’t see how you can confidently proclaim that he despises all women, presumably including his own wife. Concern for her health during pregnancy and the stress it puts both parents under is not hatred. How many times do you see women laughing with their friends about their partner’s penis size and criticising his body, telling him to lose weight, do this, do that, I don’t like your friends so you’re not allowed to see them any more and so on, which is rarely, if ever, denounced.

I tried to find a source for that first quote but only found tumblr and hate sites. Regardless, pregnancy does screw with your body and can cause a lot of problems. My sister gained an inch in height from the constant pressure on her spine, leading to damage of the vertebrae. Just below my stomach has changed shape and won’t go back, even when I became very deficient and underweight, despite having a miscarriage. There can also be tearing of the vagina, sometimes even to the anus. I’d say that’s a pretty justified fear.

I agree, River and Amy are not weak.

The third quote was from a tabloid and not even first hand, where he was talking about a character, not himself. A more in depth examination into it can be found here.

The last quote, all I could find was tumblr and that tabloid that misrepresented him before. No real source.

So no, you’re still not psychic.

How can you make his gynocentrism about his ego? If it was all about him it would be a man, surely? If Clara was a male character you’d probably find it sexist that the most important person is a man and it’s all about his ego because he’s writing himself into the narrative. But like it or not, he is not a petite young woman.

Someone not being entirely homosexual is not sexist. It happens. There are quite a few stories about gay men falling for a woman and vice versa. A relative of mine lived happily with his wife, was always straight, but then he found one man that caught his eye and did what he’d never thought he’d do, that he’d never even considered with any other man. It happens. In any other direction it would be shown as proof of a lack of shallowness.

While I’m sick of love stories in just about everything, I found it very refreshing to see a woman sacrificing herself for a man. It’s usually a man giving his life to save a woman, taking a bullet for her, slowly dying submerged in icy water while she floats on a door frame, flying a bomb into an enemy ship to save the whole planet etc. I thought it made a nice change. For all the complaints that women are not depicted with the same honour and heroism as men, they don’t half throw a hissy fit whenever they get it. Just like the “women can fight just like any man” but if one of the thousands of people you kill in a game is a woman it’s misogyny.

Anonymous asked
pbbbbbbbbt, these same people hate even RTD-women because they're not presh WOC. Rose is a clingy obsessed stalker for actively searching for the Doctor and Donna is a loud obnoxious harpy for having doing typical Catherine Tate shtick. I would say that they're trying to gloss over Martha's flaws, but honestly she was pretty bland at points. Tho the fanbase is at fault for crying about the Doctor basically friendzoning her and acting like he owed her a relationship because she was nice to him.

The same people who go on about men being entitled, “rapey”, creepy and so on if they’re even little put out at being used and led on by a woman who gave every indication that she was interested if only he jump through these hoops first. Friendzone is misogyny! No matter who is on the receiving end. Men for apparently believing they are owed a relationship and women because they are owed a relationship. Every time one of their demands is met they stamp their feet and throw a tantrum because her hair is the wrong shade of patriarchy or she had the nerve to admire a hundreds of years old, brilliant and self sacrificing alien with another dimension (that happens to be sentient) for a time machine.

I don’t think they even know what they want.

pleasefiremoffat:

beelzibubbles:

buckybarneswho:

Martha Jones is a black female doctor who Shakespare wrote sonnets about she saved the world using a spell from Harry Potter and then she traveled the world and saved it from the master and she didn’t need something magical about her to save the world
So please explain to me why you hate martha

Because they’re just looking for excuses to call Moffat a misogynist despite everything being all about how amazing and wonderful women are. If he writes every female character as “the most important X in the universe” that’s misogyny. Somehow. If he doesn’t bow down and declare that every single female is literally god, that’s misogyny. If he does, that’s misogyny. Everything is misogyny.

Then they wonder why the word no longer means anything to so many people.

Martha Jones was not written by Moffat????

So the basic premise of your argument is bullshit.

I’m not even going to bother countering the rest of the bullshit in it.

I know that. My point was that they say they just want some normal female character and call Moffat’s characters bitches, sluts and whores then assert that that was his intention, projecting their own bigotry onto him in order to demonise him and try and turn his fans on him. No matter what he does, you lot are there jumping to bizarre conclusions, refusing to venture beyond your echo chambers unless it’s to nitpick at the only point you can actually refute which wasn’t even what was meant. They throw hate at him because they want such a character but they don’t like it when they get it. Only tumblr feminists and SJWs can look at a programme where women are depicted as literally THE most important beings in the entire universe, past, present and future, in all dimensions and say “he must hate women”. Let me guess, it’s also about rape somehow.

You no more know the contents of his mind than I do so you have no right to outright declare what he thinks. You have no way of knowing that. You can guess, you can hypothesise, for instance I believe that he would strongly disagree with my views, but you can’t tell him or anyone else what he actually thinks and believes. Not with any degree of accuracy at least.

I also find it amusing that some of the most oversensitive people on the planet who scream misogyny at bloody everything and take anon comments as literal threats of death and rape, dedicate hate blogs to men they don’t like. Hypocrites.

beelzibubbles:

buckybarneswho:

Martha Jones is a black female doctor who Shakespare wrote sonnets about she saved the world using a spell from Harry Potter and then she traveled the world and saved it from the master and she didn’t need something magical about her to save the world
So please explain to me why you hate martha

Because they’re just looking for excuses to call Moffat a misogynist despite everything being all about how amazing and wonderful women are. If he writes every female character as “the most important X in the universe” that’s misogyny. Somehow. If he doesn’t bow down and declare that every single female is literally god, that’s misogyny. If he does, that’s misogyny. Everything is misogyny.

Then they wonder why the word no longer means anything to so many people.

Anonymous asked
Well how much will you pay for Age of EMpires if 15 pounds is too much?

At the moment anything beyond maybe a fiver is too much, particularly for a game I already own. My internet/Sky/phone combined is cheaper. I don’t live on much and being screwed over with bedroom tax. Pretty much without food as the cats get what’s left after bills.

hominishostilis:

sorryforpartyspocking:

the-antifeminist-kittykat:

If women like Susan B. Anthony were alive to see what feminism has become…

She would be sooo disappointed 

that expression is about right.  

Are we really gonna pretend S.B. Anthony wasn’t racist as fuck, though?

Feminism has never been on the up and up - not even historically.

seelegewehr:

it-goes-both-ways:

the-pietriarchy:

videogames come and go but age of empires is forever

I used to play that so much XD God I wish it worked on Windows 7. After 15 years it probably wouldn’t even run.

But I have the soundtrack.

There is a Steam version of AoE2 that runs properly on modern operating systems.

Ooooooo

Eek, £15. Maybe later.

I’ll just have the villager dialogue stuck in my head until then.

the-pietriarchy:

videogames come and go but age of empires is forever

I used to play that so much XD God I wish it worked on Windows 7. After 15 years it probably wouldn’t even run.

But I have the soundtrack.

Beware Trump Cards

nerdcubedactually:

There’s a type of argument used in politics (and elsewhere) that I like to refer to as a “Trump Card” Argument. This is when somebody has run out of actual arguments and instead uses a Trump card. Something that cannot be beaten. Something that stops the debate with a cheap win. Something that lets them re-write the narrative.

How many times have you heard these.

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You want to say Hi to the cute girl on the subway. How will she react? Fortunately, I can tell you with some certainty, because she’s already sending messages to you. Looking out the window, reading a book, working on a computer, arms folded across chest, body away from you = do not disturb. So, y’know, don’t disturb her. Really. Even to say that you like her hair, shoes, or book. A compliment is not always a reason for women to smile and say thank you. You are a threat, remember? You are Schrödinger’s Rapist. Don’t assume that whatever you have to say will win her over with charm or flattery. Believe what she’s signaling, and back off.

If you speak, and she responds in a monosyllabic way without looking at you, she’s saying, “I don’t want to be rude, but please leave me alone.” You don’t know why. It could be “Please leave me alone because I am trying to memorize Beowulf.” It could be “Please leave me alone because you are a scary, scary man with breath like a water buffalo.” It could be “Please leave me alone because I am planning my assassination of a major geopolitical figure and I will have to kill you if you are able to recognize me and blow my cover.”

On the other hand, if she is turned towards you, making eye contact, and she responds in a friendly and talkative manner when you speak to her, you are getting a green light. You can continue the conversation until you start getting signals to back off.

The fourth point: If you fail to respect what women say, you label yourself a problem.

There’s a man with whom I went out on a single date—afternoon coffee, for one hour by the clock—on July 25th. In the two days after the date, he sent me about fifteen e-mails, scolding me for non-responsiveness. I e-mailed him back, saying, “Look, this is a disproportionate response to a single date. You are making me uncomfortable. Do not contact me again.” It is now October 7th. Does he still e-mail?

Yeah. He does. About every two weeks.

This man scores higher on the threat level scale than Man with the Cockroach Tattoos. (Who, after all, is guilty of nothing more than terrifying bad taste.) You see, Mr. E-mail has made it clear that he ignores what I say when he wants something from me. Now, I don’t know if he is an actual rapist, and I sincerely hope he’s not. But he is certainly Schrödinger’s Rapist, and this particular Schrödinger’s Rapist has a probability ratio greater than one in sixty. Because a man who ignores a woman’s NO in a non-sexual setting is more likely to ignore NO in a sexual setting, as well.

So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone. If you pursue a conversation when she’s tried to cut it off, you send a message. It is that your desire to speak trumps her right to be left alone. And each of those messages indicates that you believe your desires are a legitimate reason to override her rights.

For women, who are watching you very closely to determine how much of a threat you are, this is an important piece of data.

an excerpt from Phaedra Starling’s “Schrödinger’s Rapist: or a guy’s guide to approaching strange women without being maced” (via lostgrrrls)

HOLY FUCK THE TRUTH.

Can every one of my male followers read this? And please, before you get defensive (“I would never rape anyone!”) keep in mind, women being afraid of Shrodinger’s Rapists (oh my god i still can’t get over the encompassing brilliance of this phrase) is a conditioned, learned response from being immersed in rape culture and the evolution of sexism and sexual violence in our society from the day we’re born. And unfortunately, it’s very difficult to unlearn without the efforts of all genders to dismantle it. Which is where you come in.

(via lil-ith)

It’s also just rude and disrespectful to patently ignore what someone has told you regarding their personal space, body, and time. Get a clue.

(via geekdomme)

I will always reblog this. Always.

(via myherocomplex)

So if you speak to a woman who is otherwise occupied, you’re sending a subtle message. It is that your desire to interact trumps her right to be left alone.

(via alamaris)

yes

(via thefitally)

Because it’s just something men do. And thinking they’re all out to rape you because they dared to speak to such a pure and innocent fragile victim is not at all maybe just sightly a little bigoted perhaps.

If you had any idea how many times I’ve been stuck next to some woman going on and on about her life or asking personal questions, which I don’t mind answering but I bet you would, especially if they were men. My sister had some women go even further than that, even taking some home with her (as well as some men).

So if I’m waiting for an appointment and reading to pass the time, no male is allowed to tell me it’s time for my appointment or else he’s a rapist. Makes complete sense.

If it only counts when on public transport, a few months ago I was on a tram, waiting to get to town, a man came up and spoke to me. Rapist? No. My dad. Who just happened to be in Manchester and on the very same tram I was on.

I am so sick of you lot trying to turn us into infants, terrified of our own shadow and unable to recognise non-females as anything other than brainless subhuman beasts, whose entire lives revolve around raping women and they need to be trained to not rape women and even talking to women means they want to rape them. You’re obsessed. And seriously projecting, no one thinks of rape more than you lot do. Anyone who takes this shit seriously is pretty much the worst kind of bigot there is, thinking that half their own species, their fathers, brothers, sons are sociopaths who need to be trained to be human, based entirely on the actions  less than 1% of the population (but only the male half of that) and their own paranoia.

(Source: lostgrrrls)